I know you might not believe me this time, but I still want to do the Love Dare. I keep telling myself I don’t have time, I’m too exhausted when I get home, anything to keep from adding one more responsibly to my daily To Do List.
Excuses… excuses. I know. I’m human. But like all humans I can do better, I can try harder. I can, at least, say I’m going to step up to the challenge.
So here, again, is the first day of the Dare for my sons.
Day 1: Love is patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your children at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.
I have a hard time with biting my tongue and patience. I’m light years better than I used to be, but still not where I’d like to be. I get angry when I’m home from 8 or 12 hours of work, trying to get the house cleaned, straightened, groceries, caring for 4 cats and my sons are sitting on their butts playing on their computers. They came by this habit honestly. That was all their Dad did. Probably all he still does but I’m getting off the point.
Today I will strive not to speak sharply when their chores are left undone, when their only connection with me is ignoring.
Back tomorrow to report on my success or lack thereof.