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What is something which truly doesn’t matter?
I had to think about this question for a while which is why I didn’t post earlier. What is something which truly doesn’t matter? I am going with the added ‘to me’ so as to move away from larger subjects which shouldn’t matter like race.
I keep thinking of things and then doubting if they really don’t matter or if I just want them not to matter. There had to be a difference besides just self-doubt.
I say it all the time. “Oh, it doesn’t matter. That’s fine.” Most of the time I am just trying to be polite and accommodating when I say that.
Somebody takes my seat. “Oh, don’t worry. I can sit over here. It doesn’t matter.”
Somebody forgets something they meant to bring to me – something that I really wanted, or wanted back. “Oh, it doesn’t matter. I’ll get it next time.”
Somebody cancels at the last-minute for something I really want to do. “It doesn’t matter. We can go another time.”
Somebody forgot to call. To text. To email. Something gets lost. Knocked over. Broken. Stolen.
“It doesn’t matter.”
Why am I always so quick to pretend it doesn’t matter? What if it does matter?
All right – truth here. It is because I don’t want to hurt the other person’s feeling or make them feel bad. I am willing to hide how I feel in order to make them comfortable and happy.
So until I know what matters and am willing to be honest about my feelings, how can I truly know what doesn’t matter?
I’ll work on that and get back to you.