Question of the Day 2-11-2019

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What Does Your Joy Look Like Today?

What does my joy look like today? Why did I pick this question?

I know, I know, I picked the questions because I wanted something deeper than your Dream House. Doesn’t mean the Dream House questions weren’t fun, but there are other important questions to ask also.

It’s grey and raining today. I feel, this last year, my hometown has been magically picked up and moved to the rainy Northwest. I am tired of rain. The long strings of grey days are not good for my bi-polar so, even if I am doing better in other ways, I am struggling still. Correction, I will always struggle, but the rain doesn’t help.

Be that as it may, today my joy looks like the glistening drops of rain on leaves, the fresh smell of the coming spring and hidden rainbows all around.  My joy looks like the sweet face of my puppy, Evie, and the friendly meows of my cats as they greet me at the door. Even the sleepy face of my youngest struggling to wake brings me joy.

We are always looking for joy somewhere out there, in the distance, the future, but, joy lives in the present, within ourselves. We need to live joyfully in every moment and in everything we see and do. Miracles happen ever day, but you won’t see them if you don’t look.

What does your joy look like today?

 

 

 

Question of the Day 2-5-2019

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What life lesson did you learn the hard way?

Most of my life lessons were learned the hard way. I tend to be bull-headed that way. Or, maybe, I’m too naïve. I tend to think the best of people so I give them far too many chances.

I know people who hang onto things or people or events way past their due date. People are afraid of change and will do almost anything to avoid it. I clung to my marriage for over 20 years, telling myself if I just waited a little longer, he would grow up to be a partner and not a child. He never did, but I’m no longer waiting.

Luckily, I had the strength to move on. It was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself and I regret not doing it far sooner. But that’s what happens when we live with fear.

You know the fear: how will I survive without him; if I can’t survive on two paychecks, how will I survive on one; I don’t want to put the kids through a divorce.

Truth is, it would have been better to put them through the divorce much earlier. I didn’t do them any favors and I certainly didn’t do myself any favors.  I believe my kids are happier adults now that I am happier.

Since then I have tried to live with the motto:

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Or, you can’t move forward while holding onto the past.

I’m learning, step by step, inch by inch, joy by joy, to let go of the fear which kept me trapped for so many years. You can too.

So, let go. Today. Now. This instant. Doesn’t it feel good to be free?

 

 

 

 

 

Question of the Day 2-4-2019

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What would your dream garden look like?

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Question of the Day 1-31-2019

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What would your dream bedroom look like?

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Question of the Day 1-30-2019

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What would your dream bathroom look like?

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Question of the Day 1-29-2019

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What would your dream kitchen look like?

Some beautiful kitchens…..

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Question of the Day 1-22-2019

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What would your dream porch look like?

Would love to have a porch big enough to fit a swing bed like this.

Or, maybe, with this swing instead.

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Question of the Day 11-16-2018

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Do animals experience emotions? If so, do they experience emotions in the same way as humans?

Anyone who has had a pet or been around animals for any length of time knows that animals have emotions. They are, after all, just another species and, in many different sizes and shapes, much like humans. If you have seen the face on your dog as you are heading out to work, you see sadness.  Just the opposite when you return. All animals have their own way of expressing their emotions, often in a language which we cannot yet understand. Only humans are so arrogant to think that if they do not understand another species’ language then it is not really there, not really a language.

I think we, as a society, are taking steps towards recognizing the emotions of animals, but we still have a long way to go.

 

 

 

Question of the Day 11-14-2018

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What are your priorities in life?

Right now, my priorities in life are to get out from under the burden of debt and re-state my life in a better place. I keep hoping and working…. hopefully soon.

 

Question of the Day 11-12-2018

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What is a simple truth people often seem to forget?

It seems to me the simple truth people seem inclined to forget is ‘Happiness is not material things.’ So many of us have been brought up to covet the neighbor’s nice cars, their bigger house, their 78″ Smart TV, their I-phone. Wife, mother, daughter or son. If only my child was as smart/talented/motivated as John’s.

We step on each other to climb the ladder of success only to discover the ladder goes nowhere but to more material things. Success does not necessitate happiness. If this wife isn’t as good any more, find a younger one, a prettier one. If your child does good, reward them with new Reeboks or a cell phone.

The rewards we seek are material things, not  realizing how shallow those things will become in our lives. Don’t like the I-Phone 5, upgrade to the 6 or the 7 or 8. Everything around us, preaches  ‘more is better.’ Come to our church because it is bigger than the others. Or has more stained glass windows, more people in the congregation. Go to our school because we have a winning football team or more students get jobs on graduation.

Why not go to our school to find out what you love in life; to meet people and explore your world?

Your child must go to this pre-school or they will never succeed in life. Sometimes, we forget that these things, too, are material. Will your child really fail because they didn’t go to ‘the’ approved preschool? Isn’t it better to teach you child about love and respect and tolerance rather than cars and houses and the fave toy of the year.

There is nothing wrong with getting the fave toy of the year unless it is the only thing you give your child. I don’t know what the fave toy of this year might be; I don’t have little children any more. I do remember when my kids were young, they marked every toys in the Christmas Catalogue as something they wanted. I knew most of the toys would fall apart or be broken or critical pieces lost almost before the wrapping paper was trashed.

I have been material, too. I see something I ‘love,’ and almost cry when I can’t get it. But I learned, and am still learning. Every day, I try to appreciate the wonder and joy around me, the happiness I feel walking with my dog, Evie.

I still get material things. We can’t live with material things, but we need to remember they are things, not happiness and not the important lessons of life.