This Is What I Think 3-19-2021

“I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.”

When I first read this quote I was like “Yes!” I felt vindicated for all the times I thought people were judging me. But then I read it again. And again. And again.

If “I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am,” then You are not what I think you are. I am what I think you are.

I was instantly not happy when I realized that whatever I put to ‘them’ also came back on me. I know the sentiment, the four fingers pointing back when you point at somebody else, but what I wanted was a way to justify my feeling of being judged. And a way to make the judge in the wrong. What better statement than this? You are what you think I am. It puts the whole blame? implications? back on the one judging me.

But it isn’t that clear and easy as I’m sure some of you knew instantly. And it comes down to the statement that we judge each other for the un-liked and unkind parts of us we see in them. Another statement which, on the surface, doesn’t make me happy.

Face it, I wanted to clear way to judge my judgers. The truth is, however, while they are judging me for the parts of themselves they see in me, I am doing the same back.

I’ve been wrangling with the sentiment ever since. It made me step back and look at how I am judging other people and how I am assuming they are judging me. Maybe they aren’t judging me; maybe I’m judging myself through their eyes. Either way, I have to come to terms with my own judgements. I am having to step back when I do judge and ask myself if I am what I am judging them for.

“I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.”

How does this statement fit into your life?

Word Of The Day 4-1-2017


[uhl-truh-krep-i-dair-ee-uh n]




noting or pertaining to a person who criticizes, judges, or gives advice outside the area of his or her expertise. 


The play provides a classic, simplistic portrayal of an ultracrepidarian mother-in-law.

“The authors of Freakonomics … could be accused of displaying ultracrepidarian tendencies themselves, after eschewing the strictly economic analyses of their earlier mega best-sellers to publish what is more or less a self-help tome.”
Tim Walker; The Freak Show Goes On And On; The Independent (London, UK); May 23, 2014.


From Latin ultra (beyond) + crepidarius (shoemaker), from crepida (sandal). Earliest documented use: 1819.

 Did You Know?

The story goes that in ancient Greece there was a renowned painter named Apelles who used to display his paintings and hide behind them to listen to the comments. Once a cobbler pointed out that the sole of the shoe was not painted correctly. Apelles fixed it and encouraged by this the cobbler began offering comments about other parts of the painting. At this point the painter cut him off with “Ne sutor ultra crepidam” meaning “Shoemaker, not above the sandal” or one should stick to one’s area of expertise.
Addition: The story was told by the Roman writer Pliny the Elder, hence Latin.