This Is What I Think 3-19-2021

“I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.”

When I first read this quote I was like “Yes!” I felt vindicated for all the times I thought people were judging me. But then I read it again. And again. And again.

If “I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am,” then You are not what I think you are. I am what I think you are.

I was instantly not happy when I realized that whatever I put to ‘them’ also came back on me. I know the sentiment, the four fingers pointing back when you point at somebody else, but what I wanted was a way to justify my feeling of being judged. And a way to make the judge in the wrong. What better statement than this? You are what you think I am. It puts the whole blame? implications? back on the one judging me.

But it isn’t that clear and easy as I’m sure some of you knew instantly. And it comes down to the statement that we judge each other for the un-liked and unkind parts of us we see in them. Another statement which, on the surface, doesn’t make me happy.

Face it, I wanted to clear way to judge my judgers. The truth is, however, while they are judging me for the parts of themselves they see in me, I am doing the same back.

I’ve been wrangling with the sentiment ever since. It made me step back and look at how I am judging other people and how I am assuming they are judging me. Maybe they aren’t judging me; maybe I’m judging myself through their eyes. Either way, I have to come to terms with my own judgements. I am having to step back when I do judge and ask myself if I am what I am judging them for.

“I am not what you think I am. You are what you think I am.”

How does this statement fit into your life?